Dear friend, I want the hard truths

 Dear friend, 

I woke up today thinking about the last couple of years, having gone through a traumatic event that left me questioning many decisions I have made in my life. Amidst all that, I missed my siblings, including my mother, who passed on a little over five years ago. I missed home, everything familiar and wished I could have just a little bit of it but alas, all I have are memories of my childhood and growing up.

I have no regrets about where I am today. If there is one thing I have learnt is that I am enough and being me is perfectly fine. The other important lesson I have learnt is choosing my tribe wisely. These are the close friends that become practically family as time passes. We share so much with each other, and our lives are intertwined, sharing our lows and highs. At this point in my life, I needed so much encouragement to go through each day, and nine months down the line, some days are tough, and I still need my tribe.


This love has been amazing, shared among brothers and sisters of “my tribe,” which brings me to a crucial question weighing heavily on my mind. Does this kind of constant positive vibe block us from telling these very tribemates the truth? I am afraid that there is a point at which we cannot continue telling our “tribemates” only positive words and sometimes they need to hear hard truths. I want to hear my tribemates telling me it’s time to dust myself and move on and I cannot feel bad about my situation anymore. I think this kind of love transcends everything.

Do you create an environment that allows a tribemate to give you the hard truths without them feeling awkward later?

Do you feel that if a friend tells you the hard truth, they hate you? Or do you see this as a good thing?

An opinion is not absolute and it’s usually a view of what the other person sees, but just might be worth it to think it over before you dismiss it. 

With love,

Your truth-seeking girlfriend.



Opinions expressed are solely my own and do not express the views or opinions of my employer.

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  1. Racheal SenyondoJune 7, 2021 at 2:03 AM

    Well articulated piece. I personally relate with everything here.

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